Yesterday, my wife of 18+ years died suddenly. …
…I’m realizing there are things that I’m uncertain of and details of many things that she was working on that would affect my family’s finances and security (among them our son possibly receiving SSDI, and some legal cases to which she was a party). She was also a well-regarded author on the WIT app, and has a number of Facebook groups which she contributed and helped in, yet I have no way of reaching either as I don’t know exactly where her footprint is seen.
I don’t know her passwords or any of her PINs, nor do I know any of her contacts or points of contact for her legal cases. I never thought to ask about any of these things because it was literally unthinkable she would pass on so suddenly.
And now the unthinkable has happened, and I’m left to try to pick up the pieces of these things and ensure the security of my family.
I’m writing this to our Community not for sympathy or assistance, but because I have a single message for everyone reading this:
Talk with your partner, leave nothing unsaid, and if they be worthy trust and share everything you have…because tomorrow they may be gone, and you may be alone and not know important, potentially life-saving information.
Whoever you are with, be their partner in all things, and never take them or their presence for granted. Life can end in a literal heart-beat, yours or theirs, and there’s no more terrifying feeling that you were ignorant of something small but vital.
Talk, share, and above all LOVE your partners enough to make this effort. Otherwise…why are you with them in the first place? …