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Psychology textbook diagrams never cease to amaze me

ok y'all this isn’t a psych textbook gaslighting you into thinking it’s normal and ok for your boss to yell at you, it’s specifically about understanding that other people’s treatment of you is usually more about them than you.

If your boss is pissy with you, it’s absolutely more healthy to understand that behavior as a reflection of his mental state rather than of your worth as an employee.

It’s not a psych textbook’s job to advise you how to improve your workplace or say what is/isn’t acceptable treatment by a boss. It’s an example of detaching your own self-worth from how other people treat you.

^^THIS!

In fact, if you let yourself think of other people’s treatment as a reflection on YOU more than it is on THEM, it can prevent you from getting things done.

Or, in other words,

ok, im rb'ing this again because this actually helped me finally be able to take advantage of cognitive restructuring in a way i’ve struggled to do for a long time. Ive been able to get to the my boss was having a bad day part, but i’ve always struggled to use that mental change to do something that would improve the situation. but because of this diagram, i THINK ive got it figured out. Here’s a rough explanation of how I interperet this.

Real life example:

Boss yelling: My mom is snapping at me, calling me “disrespectful” no matter how I speak to her, and getting mad at me for having missing assignments
He was having a bad day: She’s stressed due to my grandma being in the hospital
He shouldn’t take it out on me: just because she’s stressed doesn’t mean she gets to be mean to me.
Unionize: I advocate for myself, saying that I’m not being disrespectful and that it’s okay to have missing assignments because I’m doing my best
Fuck his wife: I am unapologetically proud of myself for what i manage to do in a day, especially if my mom disapproves of it or doesn’t view it as productive, as my own little “fuck you” to her.

End result: no depression.

This actually works and its amazing. Thanks to the meme side of tumblr for accidentally developing a highly effective method for coping with people who treat you like shit

[Image description: image 1: a photo of two short flowcharts. The first one is labeled “Maladaptive pattern” and goes “My boss yelled at me” —> “I’m worthless.” —> Depression. The second one is labeled “After cognitive restructuring” and goes “My boss yelled at me” —> “my boss was having a bad day.” —> no depression.

Image 2: the same charts as image 1, except “my boss is having a bad day” has been edited to read “i fuck his wife”

Image 3: the same charts as image 1, except “my boss is having a bad day” has been edited to read “unionize” in all caps.

Image 4: the same charts as image 1, except “my boss is having a bad day” has been edited to read “unionize and fuck his wife!!”

Image 5: the same charts as image 1, excepted second chart has been edited so that it goes “My boss yelled at me”—> “My boss was having a bad day.” —> “While this is not a reflection of my worth, my boss should not take his bad day out on me” —> “unionize” in all caps —> “fuck his wife” in all caps —>”no depression”.

A chart with three columns, labeled “diagram”, “step name”, and “explanation”. For the purposes of this image description, the rows of the chart will be transcribed as diagram-step name-explanation.

“My boss yelled at me”-inciting incident-event that triggers psychological/emotional response.  /  “my boss was having a bad day”-cognitive restructuring-reframing the event as something that is not a reflection of your worth as a person. Often done by recognizing and changing cognitive distortions in your original reaction.  /  “while this is not a reflection of my worth, my boss should not take his bad day out on me.“ – Recognize your rights - above, plus recognition of the fact that you have the right to be treated well by those around you.  /  Unionize in all caps– recognize your inherent ability to advocate for yourself – recognize that you have the skills and ability to make things better for yourself, and take action to do so. Advocate for your right to be treated well, just like a union would advocate for your rights as a worker  /  “fuck his wife”in all caps - reap the rewards – the “step 5: profit“ of this saga. Go live your best life. Succeed and excel as a “fuck you“ to the people who drag you down. A very motivated - by -spite type of thing.  /  No depression – no depression – what it says on the tin.  /End description]
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“My boss” being the example in the textbook is still frustrating because it’s a whole specific topic and sometimes bosses do that kind of thing specifically to make sure you feel powerless, not because they’re having a bad day.

But also, this explanation is clearly the point of the text explained much better. Kudos to everyone who’s contributed to the post. <3

And kudos to the boss’ wife for baking me cookies